There’s an old saying “fake it till you make it” in the sense of acting as if you are already who you’d wish to become in the future. I’ve even suggested people to do so in my last “How To Blog on A Budget” post. However, I don’t want that advice to get misinterpreted for living a life completely out of your reach. For example, I’ve recently heard of a Russian private jet service that for the price of $191 gives you a two-hour photo shoot to make you look like those rich kids on Instagram traveling on a private jet, without you know, actually taking off. Crazy huh? Unfortunately, a lot of people can get lost in the lifestyle of trying to live outside of their means, and pretend to be someone they are not. So in this post i’ll share some tips on how to live authentically while still attempting to reach your goals.
To begin what does it mean to be authentic? Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re
supposed to be and embracing who we are. Choosing authenticity means;
- cultivating the courage to be imperfect
- allowing ourselves to be vulnerable
- and nurturing the connection and sense of belonging that can only happen when we believe that we are enough.
So lets break down the steps to take after you’ve chosen to be authentic.
First, you must reach for courage within yourself. Courage is telling your story, and while you’ll likely be judged by some, and criticized by others, thats just a risk you’ll have to take in order to connect with others. Telling your story of imperfection in whatever form you choose to tell it can be incredibly touching. Think about it, the rise of social media has given a platform to hundreds of people who according to “Hollywood” would have never made it because they weren’t attractive enough, tall enough, white enough, etc, etc. yet they were relatable enough to millions of people by showing their imperfections.
ALLOWING OURSELVES TO BE VULNERABLE
The truth is, practicing authenticity means that you’re opening yourself up to people and that gives them the opportunity to criticize you. This might sometimes be hurtful for some people, but as Dr. Wayne Dyer says “When you squeeze an orange you get orange juice” meaning when people “squeeze you” i.e. criticize you, what will come out of you is only whats inside. What will people get out of you? Hate, or just love for them because you have so much love for yourself? If anything making yourself vulnerable to others can be a great exercise for improving yourself! It’s all about how you choose to translate the experience i.e. perspective.
KNOWING THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH
Its important to know that wherever you are in life right now, mentally, physically, or financially you have something special to share with the world. You don’t believe me? Then begin by changing your belief that you aren’t enough. Look I don’t blame your doubt, after all we constantly shoved a belief down our throats that we need MORE than what we have to be happy. That is a LIE, and you begin to make a difference when you stop believing that you need anything else than what you have at this very moment to be happy. So in order to change this belief say “I am enough, what I have is enough, what I do is enough, and I will always be enough” as many times as you need.
In conclusion, you have something to share with the world at this very moment. There is absolutely no need to “fake” being a completely different person from who you are. Be resourceful, and make a difference with what you have. The world needs more people who let their light shine!